Helpful List if you have Anxiety and Stress

Anxiety help

Here are a few links to some online games and things that are actually helpful (at least I have found them to be) at calming me down and taking my mind off of things.

Helpful Links

  • Here you can get rid of unwanted thoughts (this is my favorite thing I’ve found so far ok)
  • Here is a quiet place to go to when you’re stressed
  • You can go here when you are really struggling or in a dark place
  • You can go here to be reminded that it will be okay
  • Here you can anonymously vent
  • Here you can do nothing for two min
  • Here you can go to get emergency compliments 🙂
  • Here you can receive instants hugs from loads of lovely people. They’re not real hugs but maybe they can help??
  • You can test your knowledge on the English vocabulary Here. The best part is that for every question you get right they donate ten grains of rice to the UN food program!
  • send me a 🙂 if any of this helped you at all!

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ABOUT ME: Favorites, This or That and My LAST KISS & Relationship! #AskDiina

What is your:

1. gender? FEMALE.. I AM SUPERWOMAAAAAN
3. nationality? german
4. height? 165 (5’5)
5. hair color? Brown
6. eye color? left green | right: brown
7. your hometown? Bochum, Germany

Have you ever:
8. Been drunk? I don’t get really drunk even when I drink 3 liters of vodka or jacky
9. been in love? Yeah and it hurt.
10. done drugs? Yeah.
11. had a relationship? Yeah. Not so great.
12. Gotten a tattoo? NOO but I will get one soon

What is your Favorite:
13. Book? The Faults In Our Stars – John Green
14. Movie? Jurassic Park –
15. Colour? Purple, Red, Pink, Black, Gray
16. Song? See you again, Immortals,..
17. Band? BMTH

This or that:
18. Cookies or cake? Depends what kind of but I would say COOOOOOKIES
19. Pepsi or coke? COOKE ZERO
20. Tea or coffee? TEA
21. Pop or Rock music? ROCK

Have you ever been in:
22. NYC? YEAH and I am with love with this city
23. Paris? Yes but tbh I don’t like french..
24. London? Sure. England is baeeee
25. Milan? Yeah.

When was your last:
26. Kiss? What counts? With tongue? Cheek?… A few days ago 🙂
27. Hug? Today with my guuuuurl
28. Vacation? I never really had one just business..
29. Relationship? My ex is an asshole and I never met anyone as bad and dumb as him.. I won’t say it was a relationship. If you read this: Fuck yourself Fuckboy. You’ll never be able to have a real relationship.
30. Concert? AC/DC.. Ultra festival!

Ten things I learned from Dating

1. Dating is confusing and ridden with anxieties.
2. It is years of experience that means nothing.
3. It is also exciting and one hell of an adventure.
4. One person will make you feel like nothing can go wrong.
5. Another will make you feel like everything can go wrong at one time.
6. It is not easy.
7. It is not immediate.
8. Be picky, you don’t want to settle.
9. You could love someone with all your heart. They could be the best thing that ever happened to you. But if they’re not motivated to better themselves, then you have to better yourself by finding someone who is.
10. Love does not come in one person. There are so many people you can love.

 Dont go wasting your emotions

The Best 30 Inspiring And Motivational Quotes

“Forgive yourself. Whatever you’ve done before, accept it and let it go. You are not perfect. You are capable of making mistakes. Stop hiding from the shadows of the past. Don’t be trapped in the darkness of shattered memories. Let the light pass through and shine upon you. Forgive yourself because it’s the only way to start again.”

“I’ve seen too many dark days to know better than to take the brighter ones for granted.”

“If you miss out on life, they win.”

“You have your whole life ahead of you. Be smart. Study hard and be independent…You must rely on yourself. No matter what else people may steal from you, they will never be able to take away your knowledge. The world is changing. You must make your own life outside this home.”

“Whatever purifies you is the right path.”

— Rumi

“Life may limit your options, but you can still work hard to get the best one within your reach”

“The most beautiful thing we can learn, is how to let go;
of grudges,
the past,
poisonous people.
it’s a great measure of courage.”

“Loving yourself takes daily practice.”

“Create a vision that makes you wanna jump out of bed in the morning.”

“Go all the way with it. Do not back off. For once, go all the goddamn way with what matters.”

— Ernest Hemingway

“Do not look at yourself with disgust, you are a gift to this earth. You are beautiful, you are a light, an energy, an essence. You are nature herself.”

“Go and do the things you can’t. That is how you get to do them.”

“I believe in the person I want to become.”

“Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.”

— Bertrand Russell

“Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life starts to change.”

“Survival my only hope. Success my only revenge.”

— Patricia Cornwell, Postmortem

“Be what you are. Do what you love. Speak what you feel. Don’t hide your humanity. Celebrate it. Embrace it. That is how you change the world.”

— Vironika Tugaleva

“The greatest courage is not the ability to retain and hide emotion, but instead to be able to shamelessly express it at a tipping point.”

“I want to be proud of who I am. I want to be proud of myself. How can I be proud of myself if I’m hiding?”

— My Mad Fat Diary

“There will always be moments in your life where you will feel completely and utterly alone. Your bones will ache and your breath will shake. You will hurt and you will feel pain. But just know this feeling is only temporary.
This doesn’t last forever.
Nothing ever does.”
— Brenda Carrasco

“You are human, you will make mistakes, and it’s one of the most beautiful things about being human, but you must learn from your mistakes, otherwise your life will have a lot of unnecessary pain.”

— Rhonda Byrne, The Magic

“People hate what they don’t understand.”

“Stop being tormented by everyone else’s reaction to you.”

— Joyce Meyer

“You can’t change the things that happened in your life, but you can decide how you interpret and respond to them. If you didn’t receive support when you needed it, give it to yourself now.”

“Never let a single day pass by without doing something you can be proud of.”

“Life is spectacular. Forget the dark things. Take a drink and let time wash them away to where ever time washes away to.”

— Tim Tharp, The Spectacular Now

“I don’t want to be Lois Lane. I don’t want to be Superman. I want to be both. I want to be saved, but I also want to be the savior.”

“Fall in love with music, fall in love with life
Fall in love with friends, fall in love with the night.
Quit searching for “love,” you know it doesn’t exist –
If you’ve got a broken soul, it’s your job to fix it.”

“There are times when you think you have recovered but there will also be nights when you will hear the cries of the ghosts, calling out your name and asking you to pull the trigger. But, darling, do not forget that you are stronger than the past, that ghosts are just souls taking longer than the rest to leave. Remember that you are a battlefield and the victor of this duel. So close your eyes and welcome the love from the new day.”

The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.”

— Les Brown

“We are all unique individuals. There’s not a single person in this world that thinks in an identical manner to the way that you do. What you do defines you, and represents who you are. So forget about making him or her proud, make yourself proud. You are your own virtue, and you define your own character.”

— Words of Wisdom

“The only real antidote for anger or worry is purposeful action in the direction of your goals.”

— Brian Tracy from No Excuses!

“I did it all. I did it all. I owned every second that this world could give. I saw so many places, the things that I did. With every broken bone, I swear I lived.”

— I lived by One Republic

“Every morning we get a chance to be different. A chance to change. A chance to be better. Your past is your past. Leave it there. Get on with the future part…”
— Nicole Williams, Lost and Found

“But I tried though. Goddamnit I sure as hell did that much, now, didn’t I?”
— Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Her existence is the reason why I try to survive.”

— Maram Rimawi

“Control yourself…Become someone who can deal with this.”
— Brandon Sanderson, The Emperor’s Soul

“Don’t lose your fight, kid. It only takes a little push to pull on through.”

“It’s going to be okay. You’re going to meet new people, make new friends, fall in love, make good memories and bad ones too. You’ll eventually have your own family. But you can only have all of this if you’re alive. So keep your head high because it isn’t working out for you now, it will eventually.”

“Progress is progress, no matter how small.”

“You’ve got the light to fight the shadows so stop hiding it away.”

— Emeli Sandé, Read All About It, Part III,” Album: Our Version of Events

“I think I used to believe that being depressed was part of my personality
or that I was born like that, but it’s quite shocking to realise that perhaps that isn’t the case.”

— Marina Lambrini Diamandis

“No one and nothing is worth shrinking for.”

— Indigo Williams

“Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.”

— Charlie Chaplin

Crazy Factory Jewelry Haul! (December)

It’s sad how I always forget to post what I buy on my blog! I normally just post everything on my snapchat (@DiinaDaring).
I just found those pictures on my cloud.
I bought this stuff in December from Crazy Factory.

I love Crazy Factory and I love (Piercing) Jewelry! :3

Those photos are taken with my iPhone, I hope they are still okay :3

I will try to post more stuff I bought! 🙂

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How to: Find a Good Piercing Studio.

We get a lot of questions asking, ‘how do I know this piercing place is good?’ ‘how do I know I can trust them?’ and so on and so forth. The reality is that it can be a tricky process to find your soul mate studio.

There are two ways of going about this. The relatively easy one for those in the US, and the one that a lot more people have to work though.

Method number one: The APP method. The APP stands for Association of Professional Piercers, we talk about them a lot, well, because they’re gosh darn awesome! Now, not only is their website a bountiful treasure chest of interest and information, but they also have a handy shop finder. What’s so good about an APP shop, you ask? Well, all members have to go through a rigorous testing process to ensure they meet the APP’s high standards, be totally compliant with local governing laws, and practice safely. So, by using the APP’s local shop finder, you can find an excellent and well trusted modification shop.

Head to http://www.safepiercing.org/locate-a-member/ and enter your ZIP or postal code, and the local shops to you will pop up!

Now, the main issue for me is that there’s not one single APP registered studio in the UK. There’s basically very very few anywhere outside of the US. So where does this leave us? Or those who can’t travel 100~ miles to the closest APP shop?

I thought I’d come up with a checklist to help us find a good, reputable shop for all our piercing and jewellery needs.

Piercer, Pricing, Portfolio, Pressure, Shop and Sense.

These six things should hopefully cover everything you need to see, know and feel about a shop before committing yourself to get a piercing there. Let’s start off.

Piercer: Go in and meet the piercer. Do they have a friendly yet professional demeanour? Are they dressed appropriately? This means non-restrictive clothing with no silly frills and such that would get in the way. Does the piercer seem comfortable with any question you throw at him/her? Are they knowledgeable? Don’t be afraid to ask about aftercare and their preferred piercing methods. Is the piercer fully licensed to practice with the relevant certificates displayed? Do they look at home and are they respected by other staff members? Are they confident? If you can answer yes to all of these, then the piercer is probably a good person.

Pricing: Is the pricing reasonable? How do they price? A one-off all inclusive price or a price for the basic piercing and then add on for jewellery? Is the price really cheap, so cheap they probably aren’t making a profit? Are you comfortable paying what they’re asking? Pricing is important when running a shop. Too cheap, and that can set off alarm bells, and if it’s totally out of your price range, ask if they pierce with basic titanium jewellery.

Portfolio: There should be a diverse mix of piercings, from all over the body, displayed neatly in a book or on the walls. They should show a full range of healing, fresh and fully healed piercings. If they want to display 18+ piercings, are they in a separate book? If you’re unsure or worried about a portfolio piece, ask the piercer. Why did they decide to use this jewellery instead of another kind? If you see any huge red lights (like straight piercings in a surface bar), ask them about it. If they make up some form of rubbishy excuse, that’s probably the time to leave.

Pressure: Do you feel under pressure from the people in the shop to get something done then and there, did they pester you to buy something? Were they friendly? Ask yourself if you felt comfortable in the shop.

Shop: This one’s really quite important. What does the shop look like? Is it neat and tidy? Merchandise kept behind glass casing? If there’s any clothing or other merchandise, is it well organised? Is the shop floor totally clean? Fire exits marked clearly? No rubbish lying about? Hygiene and local licenses displayed? Does the shop have an autoclave? Ultra sonic cleaner? Do they use one use needles? Brand new jewellery? Autoclaveable clamps? Are the staff friendly? Once again, is everything clean, neat, tidy and well turned out? Basically, you need to ask yourself: Is this shop spotless? Spotless with everything, ethics, staff turnout, the floor, jewellery organisation and everything. Are you happy with how everything is? Make sure you are!

Sense: This is basically the most important one here. Your common sense and judgement. Even if everything ticks all the boxes and you still don’t feel right about it, then trust your instincts. If someone felt a little off, something didn’t feel great, then trust what your heart says.

Sometimes it takes a while to find a shop you’re happy with. Sometimes the right shop for you will be the wrong shop for someone else. I hope this guide will hopefully help someone else in the future!

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The Great Jewelry FAQ | Material and Uses

jewelry materials FAQ.

We get a lot of questions about is X material okay for Y piercing, can you be allergic to X material, is X material okay for initial piercing, and so on and so forth. So, here’s an in depth run down list of the most commonly used jewelry materials and what they mean for you.

Jewelry materials can generally be split into two categories: Organic, and non-organic. That pretty much speaks for itself!

Non organic jewelry:  Steel, titanium, niobium, glass, silicone, plastics, and precious metals, such as gold and silver.

Organic jewelry: Wood, horn, bone, and stone

So, those are our two categories, let’s delve deeper into these materials.

Non organics:

Name: Surgical Steel

Extra uses (apart from jewelry): Needles and clamps, trays, bins.

Can you have an allergy to this material? Yes, surgical steel contains nickel which you can be severely allergic to! Some premium brands such as Industrial Strength and Anatometal’s Surgical Steel has a very low nickel content, which is very useful for those who want a high shine with little chance of allergic reaction. It is possible to develop an allergy to nickel, but it’s more likely to be caused by something other than your jewelry!

Vegan? Yes

Autoclavable? Yes

Extra Information: Surgical steel is used globally for jewelry, and piercing tools. It’s illegal to use surgical steel as initial jewelry in the EU due to the high nickel content, meaning titanium is used instead. In the rest of the world, however, it’s fine to use surgical steel as initial jewelry, however if you have a known nickel allergy, let your piercer know! It’s shinier than its counterpart titanium, with a more silver look, compared to the shiny gunmetal grey that titanium exhibits.  There are three kinds of SS commonly used in jewelry, 316, and 316L, with the L standing for ‘low carbon’.  Finally, 316LVM stands for low carbon vacuum melting, which reduces the contamination and generally produces pure steel, which significantly reduces the nickel content. Your premium brands, like the ones listed above, use this.


Name: Titanium

Uses: jewelry (initial and otherwise)

Can you be allergic to this material? It’s incredibly rare, and is generally considered the only material not to react to the body, so, whilst you can, it’s virtually unheard of.

Vegan? Yes

Autoclavable? Yes

Extra Information: Titanium’s awesome. It’s practically hypoallergenic, and it’s what’s going to hold your bones together if you ever need it! This, in many people’s opinions, makes it the optimal material for initial and post-piercing jewelry. It’s non porous, and you can easily clean it with warm water and a non-scented soap. Because it’s non porous and virtually hypoallergenic, it’s also super good for freshly stretched ears. Titanium can also be anodized, which is another positive, as you end up with really nice colours! Using an electrical current and a solution, the current causes a very thin metal coating to form on the titanium, and the colour depends on what voltage is passed through. Anodisation can sometimes rub off or fade over time, but this doesn’t affect the integrity of the material, simply the aesthetics.

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Name: Niobium

Can you be allergic to this material? Niobium and its alloys are inert and therefore hypoallergenic.

Vegan? Yes

Autoclavable? Yes

Extra Information: As niobium is a very soft metal, it can’t be lathed to be threaded, meaning it is only generally used for CBRs and other jewelry with no threading. It’s also more expensive than titanium and surgical steel, and is also the heaviest of the three, which can cause irritation to some wearers. Like titanium, it can also be anodised, just not to the wide range of colours that titanium can be.

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Name: Precious metals, Gold and silver.

Can you be allergic to this material? You can be allergic to the nickel present in some of the alloys

Vegan? Yes

Autoclavable? No, making them unusable for initial piercing.

Extra Information: Lower carats of gold are unsuitable for body jewelry as they are very soft and just wouldn’t withstand the pressure that body jewelry goes through on a daily basis. It’s also easily scratched, so low carats = no bueno. If you’re so desperate for initial gold coloured jewelry, use gold coloured titanium. Avoid gold plating because it’s often easily chipped and will expose your piercing to a maybe dangerous metal underneath. Stick to 14 and 18K! Silver: Generally marketed as sterling silver, and is safe for jewelry. Silver can, however contain nickel, and a high nickel content can cause problems. Silver is not safe for initial stretches or piercing, as it can tarnish and cause a dark mark around the piercing, sometimes called a ‘silver tattoo’. Save your silver jewelry for those special occasions, it’s definitely not for long term wear like the three main metals.

Name: Plastics (Acrylic, dental acrylic, delrin, Bioplast, Bioflex, PTFE)

Can you be allergic to this material? Not necessarily allergic, but it can be severely irritating in some aspects.

Vegan? Yes

Autoclavable? Only Bioplast, bioflex, PTFE and dental acrylic are autoclavable.

Extra information: The body jewelry industry freaking loves acrylic. It’s cheap, cheerful, comes in bright colours and is easily lathed and moulded. This doesn’t however, always make it your material BFF. It’s very porous, which can irritate your ears/nose/wherever you put it. It’s not autoclavable meaning it’s a no-no for initial piercing and stretching jewelry. Dental acrylic is slightly different, autoclavable, and good for long-term use as balls and backs in oral piercings. PTFE (Teflon), Bioplast and Bioflex (all very similar materials, same properties, different names) are also autoclavable, and suitable for long term usage, and initial piercing. Some piercers swear by it for industrials as less pressure is exerted on the holes, however some others dislike it. It’s all down to your piercer, and your personal preference. These flexible plastics are commonly used in oral piercings (less tooth and gum damage) and are used as flexible retainers, such as for pregnancy and high impact sports. You can clean non-autoclavable plastics with warm water and non fragranced soap.


Name: Silicone

Can you be allergic to this material? Yes

Vegan? Yes

Autoclavable? Yes, however only the higher, medical grades. If you stick a $1 silicone tunnel in the autoclave, you’d probably end up with a nasty gooey mess.

Extra information: There’s two grades of silicone you’ll find in body jewelry, industrial, and medical. Steer well clear of industrial grade silicone. It’s in the name, it’s not meant to be in the body! I’ve seen examples of cheap silicone jewelry react even badly to plain old soap. If it’s going to disintegrate when it touches water, what on earth is it going to do when it’s in your ear? Another important tip: do not, under any circumstances, use silicone as jewelry in a fresh stretch. It’s not okay, nor is it okay to fold up a ¾” tunnel into your 5/8” lobes because you’re lazy. It’s going to ruin your ears. One more thing, recently, there’s been incidents of industrial strength silicone being marketed under the name ‘Kaos’ or ‘Softwear’. Kaos Softwear is the only silicone brand that works with medical/implant grade silicone, and you should only buy if you are confident that it is that brand. Before wearing any silicone, wash them well with warm soapy water to remove any dust or lint.


Name: Glass (pyrex, borosilicate, soft glass)

Can you be allergic to this material? Nope (although it can cause ‘wet ear’)

Vegan? Yes

Autoclavable? Yes

Extra information:  Glass is arguably the most awesome material. Ever. You can use it for initial jewelry, plugs, tunnels, everything. And there’s hundreds of different things you can do to it for it to be awesome. It’s totally safe for long term wear, too. That’s all there is to it, it’s awesome.


Now, we can move onto organics. There’s only four materials in this category, and they’re pretty similar care wise, so it should be easy to read through!

Name: Stone

Can you be allergic to this material? No reported cases!

Vegan? Yes

Autoclavable? No

Extra information: Stone is probably the most amazing natural material, purely for the sheer diversity of the types of stone, the polishes, and cuts available. It’s most likely to be shaped into the double flare saddle shape, as this gives the stone the most integrity. Stone’s a pretty heavy material, and not suitable for really long term wear. There are hundreds of different types, to cater for all tastes, which really does make it versatile. It cannot be autoclaved, meaning it’s not suitable for initial piercing jewelry. It can be cleaned with warm soapy water, or dusted with a microfiber cloth.


Name: Wood

Can you be allergic to this material? People can react to certain types of wood

Vegan? Yes, however some woods are finished with beeswax

Autoclavable? No

Extra information: To quote a favourite jewelry company of mine, ‘Wood is Good’. It’s versatile, easy to wear and available in many different designs. Wood can warp if it’s left in water, so no swimming, showering or soaking with wood jewelry in! Wood needs to be oiled with an oil of your choice every 1-2 weeks (depending on wear) to prevent it from drying out, and in some cases, cracking. As it’s not autoclavable, it’s obviously not okay for initial piercing wear/initial stretching wear. It shouldn’t be exposed to extreme temperatures either.


Name: Horn and bone

Can you be allergic to this material? they can cause irritation in rare cases

Vegan? No

Autoclavable? No

Extra information: If you’re going to buy horn or bone, always make sure that it’s been ethically sourced and gathered. They are animal products, and many people don’t agree with it. Personally, I don’t wear them because I just don’t like the materials themselves, but that’s my own prerogative. They need to be cared for much like wood (they both, as well as wood, come under the umbrella of porous organics) They should be cleaned very lightly with a damp cloth as when desired, as to prevent cracking and warping. They are both very fragile and should be treated carefully, no exposure to water, extreme temperatures. Rub a little coconut or jojoba oil onto them to help retain shine, and make sure you don’t use wood treatment oils on them. Store them away from light if possible, as they are fragile materials and do need to be treated with respect.

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How To: Stretch Your Septum Piercing

What will you need?

  • Oil to massage with (Emu oil, jojoba oil, Bio Oil or vitamin E oil)
  • No flared plug/tunnel (no, not acrylic or silicone)
  • KY Jelly (or any other water-based lubricant)
  • Insertion pin:

Most of you will have had your septum pierced at 1.2mm (16g) or 1.6mm (14g) so the first insertion pin you’ll need to buy will be at 2mm (12g).

  1. Make sure you wash your hands with antibacterial soap (even better if you have gloves (no, not washing up gloves)
  2. Massage your septum with the oil for a good few minutes
  3. Take the lubricant and rub it all on the insertion pin
  4. Start placing it through your septum, slowly but surely. You will feel a stinging sensation, but that’s normal because of the nerve endings. The slower you go, the nicer it should be for you
  5. Once you have the pin through, get your plug or tunnel and line it up with the bigger end of the pin. Push both the jewellery and the pin towards each other AS you push it through your septum to get the jewellery through
  6. Push the jewellery over a bit in the direction you were going, and then the other way to even it all up
  7. Ta-da
It might be very sore for a few days or a week or two. That’s normal. Just keep bathing! If it swells, a hot compress is always good; warm water from the kettle on a cotton pad and press it on and around your septum.

What sizes do you go up in?

1mm. Any more and it’s going to seriously hurt and/or you could get a blowout (yes, you can get blowouts in a piercing other than your lobes)

How long will it take to heal?

Between 1-2 months usually, but please keep in mind that just because it seems fine, doesn’t always mean it’s fully healed.

What about the taping method?

The smaller the size, the harder it is to tape. It’s the same as with lobes.
About 6mm (2g) is an ok size to start taping. It can be a little awkward with septums though. Depending on how loose it is, a layer or two every few weeks should be fine!

What about the dead stretch method?


Dead stretching involves using round ended (often) glass plugs in half sizes to stretch the fistula. It’s a debated method, however one that’s often used. It should only be attempted if you are able to find plugs that are in 0.5mm sizes up, if not, it’s generally not advised.