Hopes, Dreams and Plans for the next 365 Days

Day 1 of my 365 Days, 365 Blog Posts Challenge is “Hopes, dreams, and plans for the next 365 days with a picture of yourself”! And I already forget to post it and I am writing it at midnight haha I hope it becomes a habit to just blog daily without thinking about it!

I really hope all of you had a gread easter season and an amazing weekend! 🙂

I thought I would just do a list of my Dreams & Plans 🙂
    • Own Piercing / Photography Studio
    • New Camera
    • New Notebook
    • Photograph a lot & taking a lot of selfies
    • Learn tattooing
    • Grow my hair long, thick and healthy and keep it black (Hair Routine 2016)
    • Get Ombre Hair Extensions
    • Get perfect eyebrows haha
  • Maybe get kittens
  • Publish at least one blog post daily 😉
  • Be more active on instagram, snappy…
  • Meet lot of nice people & see a lot of old friends again
  • Get a lot of new piercing and tattoos!
  • Get a new wordpress colocation because my current one sucks
  • Become healthier & fitter!
  • Become rich and famous (don’t ask me how haha)
  • Have a nice time 🙂
  • .. I think this is the most imporant stuff haha 😀

And here are a few random selfies 😀 I took them a week ago with my new extensions 🙂

Cinnamon is growing so fast omg
My hair kinda looks weird on this haha

Tomorrow: Something that’s illegal but you think it should be legal

Feel free to write about this too and tell me your goals and plans in the comments! 🙂

The Best Alternative Positive Anxiety Coping Tools

  • running – (my personal favorite/most successful for me) it gets my heart rate up through activity and peaks it in a different way than anxiety makes it, so after a nice long run my heart rate slows down, I’ve had a nice distraction and also some reflection time to think about whats been bothering me. i also feel pride in being active and that helps counteract the negative feelings that come with anxiety.
  • yoga – its a good way to relax your mind and your muscles, anxiety tends to cause a lot of tension and doing yoga helps loosen you up so you don’t have to deal with at least some of the physical symptoms.
  • meditation
  • breathing techniques** – i starred this one because its something to take note of no matter what tool you’re using to calm down, slowing your breathing generally helps calm you down and helps counteract the catastrophic thinking and helps you to think more rationally, someone described it well: Sit in silence. Close your eyes. Take some slow deep deep breathes. Listen to your heart beat, and your breathing. Try to not concentrate on anything but your heart beats. Don’t let any bad thoughts enter your mind, if your mind wanders focus it back to monitoring your heart rate and your breathing. its also important to breath into your belly, not your chest!
  • doing chores or small tasks – helps you get shit done and gives you a sense of accomplishment
  • long hot bath – read a book, light a candle, make yourself comfortable!
  • listening to slow/relaxing music (someone said jazz is really helpful specifically)
  • make a list of the things bothering you – and then start writing solutions for them, getting your thoughts down on paper helps you realize them how they actually are and can help you come to a solution or approach more easily when you aren’t being bombarded with negative thoughts distracting you from finding a solution. only the words you’re writing are what you should focus on
  • take a nap – i know its usually hard to sleep with anxiety but if you can get some rest it usually helps with cooling down and getting through/avoiding the panic
  • 5-4-3-2-1 –Take a deep breath. Name the basic shapes and colors of FIVE things you see (Ex. red circle=stoplight). Close your eyes. Name FOUR things you feel touching you (I feel the chair under me, I feel the air from the fan.. etc.) Name THREE sounds you hear at the moment.Take two deep breaths. Name TWO scents in your environment. Take a deep breath. Name ONE thing you are grateful for/like about yourself. Exhale slowly. (this was said to help with especially with public attacks)
  • 4/7/8 – breathe in for 4 seconds through your nose, then hold 7 seconds, then you blow all your air out from your mouth for 8 seconds. repeat this until your calm. you can also use it if you have trouble sleeping
  • a cup of hot tea
  • make art – don’t worry about being neat, be sloppy, be emotional get that anger or frustration or whatever feelings that are fueling that anxiety and put them into your gesture, throw paint on the canvas, scribble hard with the pen, really allow your emotion to be put into the art. it helps you relieve tension and also reflect and gives you something cool to look at after. it gets the feelings out of your head/chest and on to something else.
  • write down everything you’re feeling – don’t think, don’t plan, just write.
  • cook something hella yummy – the process helps gives you something to focus on, and gives you something good to eat by the time you’ve calmed yourself down
  • holding an ice cube in your hand – focus on the cold and nothing else, til it melts, let your anxiety melt with it
  • tense and release method – Tense your face for 10 seconds relax. then neck, then shoulders, then one arm, the other arm etc… when you’re tensing hold your breath. when it’s all done lay down/or do this laying down and at the end just allow your whole body to relax
  • sit down –  put your head between your knees, close your eyes, inhale through your nose to fill your lungs, hold for 10 seconds, exhale slowly while counting to 10
  • brain stimulation – Puzzles/crosswords/building something/Sudoku etc
  • taking a string – (thread or a hoodie string anything) and wrapping it around your finger then unwinding it and wrapping it around the other finger helps because its so monotonous but easy to focus on
  • take a long warm shower – let the water wash the anxiety off of you
  • clenching and unclenching your fists
  • singing loudly
  • visualize the worst possible outcome – and how even in the worst turn of events there is always the next time the following day your world will not end regardless of what is to come there is always another opportunity another chance although circumstances change the potential remains the same your potential your ambition is undiminishable failure may be a lost battle but never a lost war
  • glitter jars – shake it, watch the glitter settle to the bottom, its calming to watch, repeat as many times as necessary

i compiled this list from personal experiences as well as tons of asks and advice from my followers. everyone has a different experience with anxiety, there’s no universal method or technique that’s going to help everyone, but i will say controlling your breathing is something everyone should try and take note of or practice because it really does help alleviate a lot of the physical symptoms. these are not all of the possible methods or techniques just what either me or my friends and/or followers have found to help them. i hope this helps you guys as well. much love to all of you!!! you’re not alone with this!!

Denisa Tomescu | via Facebook

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Vocabulary Wheel to Describe Your Feelings PERFECT

Sometimes it’s hard to explain exactly how you feel. This handy vocabulary wheel helps you narrow down exactly what word best expresses your current emotional state.

Whether you’re writing or talking about a character, another person, or yourself, it can be easy to use the same words over and over. This wheel diagram from English teacher Kaitlin Robbs helps you find the right word for the right feeling from the inside out. Start out with a basic emotion and then move outward until you have the best synonym for the job. The wheel itself isn’t exactly groundbreaking in the world of vocabulary, but it’s a nice reference for those that have a hard time being specific about how they or others feel.

Find the Perfect Word for Your Feelings with This Vocabulary Wheel